What Does Love Begin With?

Question: What is absolute love and why isn’t it possible even in relationships between parents and children?

Answer: The fact is that there is no love in our world in the strict sense of this word.

In Kabbalah, love means a state where I give everything to another person and exist within him with all my expectations, leaving nothing inside of me. My heart is empty, my mind is empty, my strengths are empty, and I give everything to others. This is called “love.” There is no such thing in our world.

In other words, in our egoistic qualities with which we were born and exist blissfully to this day there is no such opportunity because egoism works absolutely differently. It does not matter how we twist it, it will still turn around and do everything the way it is good for it.

Even if we give something to others and wish them well, it is only because we get some benefit from it and for this it is worth to wish for good or do something good for others. Thus, there is no love. Just complete egoism.

Love begins with the fact that we try to work with each other in a group, trying to tune in to correct relationships as if we want to bestow, share, and selflessly pass something from ourselves to others in our ten. Yet, we cannot. Then it becomes clear to us that we lack the force of bestowal, the force of love.

In this case, the need arises to find, reveal, recognize, and receive it. Initially, there is a quality of bestowal and love in nature—the quality of the Creator. It means that we need to receive some of this force from the Creator.

Therefore, when we try to treat each other correctly with bestowal and love in the ten, we see that we cannot do this. Then we all begin to demand from the Creator: “Give us the force of bestowal, of love, and of the correct relationships with each other. You must correct us. You must help us.” And we receive this force.

Thus the Creator reveals between us—the quality of bestowal and love. It is really possible to do this. Our laboratory is our ten, where we constantly discuss everything together, make decisions, act, invite this positive force upon ourselves, and implement it.

Comment: You always say that the Creator is revealed in the relationships between people.

Answer: Only in the ten, in the correct association of people among themselves, and in the correct connection between them. This is not simple. This is work according to the clear methodolgy over a long time.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/11/17