Why Is It Difficult For Us To Bear The Death Of Our Relatives?

Question: It is very difficult for us to bear the death of relatives. How do people who are involved with spiritual development relate to this?

Answer: Shortly after I began to study with my teacher, it so happened that the mother of three of his students died. I went for to express my condolences and was very surprised to see that they behaved as before, talking calmly with each other.

As time passed, I understood that this is precisely what the relationship to death should be.

Why do we perceive temporal, petty, insignificant existence, that amounts to only escaping from suffering, as so special? What is it?

After all, this life amounts to attempts to place ourselves in a more comfortable situation every moment, to suffer less. That is what life is! Why should I grieve if people are moving away from this?

There is a particular animal fear of losing even this tiny speck of life, even though according to the wisdom of Kabbalah it is not even called life; it is a kind of inner illusion!

We were originally created to begin from this state, to search for the true meaning of existence. If a person doesn’t use the opportunities that are given to him in this world to go out to a higher state and continue his life from there, then there is nothing to be done. Naturally this will continue until all of us achieve the feeling of the upper world.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/1/15