The Ego Pushes A Person To Bestowal

Question: How do the Egyptians push the children of Israel to work in order to bestow?

Answer: By despair! A person performs egoistic actions, Lo Lishma(not for its own sake), but it doesn’t matter since we are below theMachsom (barrier).

Above the Machsom, there is the domination of the bestowal, the altruistic intention, while below the Machsom there is the domination of receiving, the intention for myself. After the shattering the desires fell below the Machsom. The shattering took place on purpose in order to provide the condition in which we will want to return to connection, even egoistically, and that is considered that we have the right intention.

This means that the Light that Reforms will operate on us from Above. The border ofParsa, the Machsom doesn’t stop the Surrounding Light and is not a barrier for it. The Surrounding Light can illuminate even with an egoistic intention and a prayer. The MANcan come from egoistic desires that only yearn a little for bestowal.

The Parsa is a very sensitive border, and so we can reach correction from every state.

The Egyptians, the desires to enjoy, are the ones who push Israel to work in order to bestow so that they can take all the gains afterward. It is like a snake that swallows all the fruit of our work. What else can be a means that helps me advance in addition to Egypt, in addition to my egoistic desires?

A person has no other means. There is a point in the heart that is pushed forward by egoistic vessels: thoughts, desires, and intentions. Without this obstacle I would have nothing but the sparks called the sons of Jacob. These sparks actually don’t want to do anything and are only a Reshimot (reminiscences) inside a person.

We can advance only by the cruel egoistic desires of this world and beyond it: the desires to attain, to understand, to ascend above life and death. Where can we get the energy to come to the lesson every morning and to disseminate? All this comes from the Pharaoh, from our ego. A person who suppresses his ego cannot advance.

Therefore, we don’t restrict our egoistic actions. On the contrary, the more the ego pushes us, the better. As it says, “he who is greater than his friend, his desire is even greater.” A person yearns to attain the Creator, and Pharaoh helps him advance.

We have to use the whole cruel ego we have, which means to go through the 49 gates of impurity. The Egyptians help us advance, but at the same time each time we receive the Light, and so we reach a state in which we have to escape. The Light that comes to us creates this special attitude towards the intention in us, but we perform all the actions at the Egyptians account.

So the best Pharaoh is that which gives us trouble and brings us to a state where we escape from it.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/16/14, Writings of Rabash

It Is Not Easy To Be Born

Question: How can we help each other keep the happiness and gratitude towards the Creator during these difficult states that are discovered during the exodus from Egypt?

Answer: Certainly we discover difficult states. Lately, I have been getting complaints and claims from many groups. Lots of different people are writing about this; problems have intensified in the groups and friends are getting into arguments; they cannot even look at each other. Someone stops coming, someone completely leaves.

There are groups that have suddenly divided into several groups. Someone gets an idea to organize his own group and he takes some friends and disconnects from the rest. A lot of different problems are revealing. But we must understand that they are all contributing to progress on the way. These are breakdowns that one cannot do without. So I relate to them all very calmly.

If you see the lessons and somehow try to apply what is said practically, then you will advance. And if you don’t agree or hear and are not ready to realize it, then I cannot do anything. I am very limited in my work.

But you need to know that all these serious difficulties were created just before the approach of the exodus from Egypt. This means that we are under the control of our ego and it could be that we are already approaching the 49 gates of impurity.

Each and every level has its own 49 gates of impurity. Every level begins and ends with them. It is said, “Whoever is greater than his friend, his desires are greater.” And on the higher levels, much greater signs of the 49 gates of impurity develop than were in Egypt. But for us they are perceived as serious problems.

It is understood that the pressures on a child are much smaller than on an adult. But for a child these problems seem important and intolerable. So I warn the groups that feel crushed, that now is the best time to connect and come together. It could be that thanks to this, you will be able to make a leap that is called spiritual birth, the exodus from Egypt. This is possible precisely from states where you cannot get any agreement.

It is worthwhile to gather all of this sediment, all of these problems, all of the shattering, and to try to connect. Then new situations will be discovered where we cannot tolerate each other. And we again try to connect. And so within a short period, within a few hours, you will be able to reach spiritual birth.

But pay attention, until this has happened, the states will be intolerable and there will be a need to connect above the hatred, above the rejection, above the distances and above all kinds of calculations. This is not very easy or pleasant, but there is nothing else to do.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/13/14, The Zohar

Games With Pharaoh

Question: How do we acquire the power of faith?

Answer: We acquire faith through a request. But the request must be as close as possible to the power of faith. This means that I must clarify why I need faith and how I give shape to this demand inside of me. Through my demand, I attract the power of faith to me, like using a magnet, forcing it to be revealed in me.

The difficulty is that it’s impossible to want the power of faith without acquiring it. This is a closed circle, one contradicts the other. But in my physical state, I “pretend,” playing as if I need the power of faith and am bestowing, then this power illuminates me from a distance. It hasn’t yet reached me because I don’t yet have a true deficiency for it. But I pretend as if I have a deficiency for it, and this attracts the Light that Reforms to me that changes me.

With the help of exercises like these, time after time, I attract more and more Surrounding Light and begin to become familiar with the characteristic of bestowal. Even in the dark, I can identify which actions are greater or lesser acts of bestowal. I learn to orient myself in the dark, even work with Pharaoh, to play with him.

During this game, the power of faith begins to illuminate me from a distance. But only on condition that I invest effort in being like it; I attract it, draw it into me, so I am changing a bit all the time. This period of concealment is called work in Lo Lishma, through which we reach Lishma.

The only thing that we need now is the power of faith. And for this we must carry out physical actions, because in the spiritual world, we still cannot do anything. So we make a game in a group, with dissemination, we build systems that are like spiritual systems, like children imitating adults.

Children and even animal cubs do this naturally, and we don’t; so we need to play. Children also attract the Light that Reforms and that is how they develop. All creatures develop according to this principle.

This is the difference between inanimate matter and the matter of higher levels that are capable of development: the vegetative, animate, and speaking. They have the ability to play with the next level and do this to attract the Light that Reforms to themselves. This is the goal of the game with whose help plants, animals, and humans develop. Within their cells there is a mechanism that makes it possible for them to play at being more mature, which draws them towards reaching that. This is like our game in a group, but with them it is done automatically, mechanically. So plants or animals attract additional Light, and through this they grow. The same principle exists everywhere.

We must do this consciously, and with them, it’s not through desire, rather it’s done by nature. But every creature, meaning plant, animal, or human, all of them attract Surrounding Light. In humans this is expressed more prominently because they always aspire toward building something new, reaching new heights. That is how new Reshimotfrom a higher level are revealed, forcing us to attract the Light that Reforms.

The main thing is not to forget that it’s up to us to work, not in order to remove the concealment, but in order to attract the Surrounding Light, the power of faith. It’s up to us to go less deeply into bad thoughts, bad desires, and characteristics, for “you are wherever your thoughts are.” We must think how it’s possible to emulate the appropriate action for the Light more and more. And then the Light will influence us.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/22/14, Writings of Rabash

It Is Good To Be Together In The Center Of The Group And Bad To Be Alone

Question: What does it mean that suffering shortens time?

Answer:  The sufferings and clarifications shorten time because I must feel:

Evil in the desire to receive and good in the desire to bestow.
Bad alone and good together.
Bad outside of the center of the group and good within the center of the group.

All of this is against my substance, my desire. If I strive against my desire, I feel anguish and I am not ready to carry this out. A person is not ready to suffer willingly, and where there is suffering, he cannot enter.

Only provided that he has a greater goal that covers up the suffering will he be ready to accept them, like a patient who agrees to an operation. Even though it is unpleasant and dangerous, he goes along with this or otherwise he will die. So don’t consider him to be a hero; he indeed understands that without this it is impossible to go on and that it is worthwhile for him to accept the suffering and remain alive.

Every beast and every person makes a calculation like this. But we need to go against our desire to receive, without any justification of the desire to receive.

When I go against my ego and try to be integrated into society and into a group, to be together with them and to carry out what they want, I have no justification for this. I cannot say that there will be some kind of benefit from this for me. I don’t see a purpose for which it is worthwhile for me to yield and do what they want. There is no justification; I can’t swap a cow for a donkey. So how will I do this?

It is here that a place for the prayer of many is created, which is a request to receive the power of bestowal. I want to bestow without any compensation. This is against my nature, and it is impossible to carry this out. If they were to give me compensation, on the contrary, I surely would bestow in order to receive. If I need to give someone ten dollars and get back, let’s say, something worth a thousand dollars, I will happily bestow.

I have no problem in bestowing in order to receive, everyone does this. But here we are talking about bestowing without any compensation for myself, without any fulfillment. How is it possible to do this? There are no such actions in our world. For everything I do, there must be an opposite reaction from the other side. Otherwise this would be a perpetual motion machine, an eternal engine that constantly supplies energy and power without being charged.

There is nothing like this in our world, yet there is in spirituality! This is the power of theCreator who can bestow without any compensation. I want to get this power. If through a small illumination the desire to acquire this characteristic grows in me, this is a sign that I have already advanced to Lishma and I have already begun to demand: “Give me the power to bestow without anything in return.”

I want to be wise, sensitive, and understanding, so that I will be able to bestow and have all that I need for this bestowal. And so I receive this ability.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/23/14, Writings of Rabash

The Source Of Traditions

Question: A new student who comes to the Pesach meal sees many religious customs and doesn’t understand what is going on.

Answer: These are not religious customs. All the customs of the Israeli nation stem from the wisdom of Kabbalah, and are transcendental and illogical. All this doesn’t exist in nature and so we don’t need to follow them blindly.

The 18 minutes during which the Matzo are baked, for example, are made of  the nineSefirot of the Direct Light and nine Sefirot of the Returning Light. If we don’t manage to bake the Matzo during this time, a process of fermentation begins, which means that the egoistic desire will begin to swell and to rise. So we don’t eat leavened bread duringPesach since the fermented desire cannot receive the Light of Hochma (wisdom).

What does it mean to escape from Egypt? It’s a very quick transition when a person comes out of egoism and enters altruism, out of our world and into the feeling of the upper world, the feeling of the Creator.

Here, like in the time of birth, you cannot stall since you cease to be nourished by the previous system that provided you with oxygen and other nutrients. It operated upon you through the umbilical cord and your body functioned.

Now a totally different system operates upon you, as your lungs begin to receive oxygen through the air and you begin to breathe independently and to function; your temperature changes and totally new systems begin to operate, a different world and different senses. All this happens at once.

All the Jewish customs stem from the spiritual world and have no corporeal basis or justification. They gradually became customs of other religions as each religion received them in its own way and changed them to suit them.

For the Arabs, an offering is slaughtering a lamb. The word “sacrifice” stems from the Hebrew word “close.” The external customs of different peoples are not very different, but they all stem from ancient spiritual customs.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/17/14, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman

Instructions That Come From Inside

Question: In all religions, people believe that we should act according to the Creator’s orders.

Answer: Kabbalah doesn’t take any orders into account but only a person’s possibilities according to his level of development. It’s because every desire, every intention, the whole plan of creation, is meant only for that, for developing a person so that he will discover and create the image that he can call the Creator inside him.

He creates it each time as he rises higher and he regards the Creator that he creates as more and more sublime. But this is a very complicated issue that I wouldn’t recommend discussing with ordinary people since this perception is established in a person only when he feels the new spiritual elements, feelings, sensations, and discernments.

Question: So instead of instructions, there are yearnings and efforts that develop in a person which oblige him to advance?

Answer: We feel the instructions from inside us. What is an instruction? Where is an instruction given? Who carries out these instructions if they are written somewhere? All this doesn’t exist! No one carries them out! If according to a person’s nature something is egoistically beneficial, he does it, and if it cannot be carried out egoistically, he doesn’t since he cannot force himself. “Cannot,” means unable to, “doesn’t want to” because he isn’t made for that, there is no difference between wants and performs.

If people don’t engage in their nature, and don’t take it as the basis that needs to be changed and how to format it anew, they think “the Creator has instructed us and we shall do as He says.” But in fact we cannot change ourselves. Try! We see that nothing changes, but simply continues to deteriorate and becomes worse.

Thus there cannot be any orders here. If a person feels a certain inner awakening and to that extent begins to burn inside, he then works in order to fulfill his awakening.

Suddenly he discovers a certain new goal and that he has to perform certain actions in order to attain it. At the same time he learns the orders written in the books and tries to perform them, but it won’t help! If his desires are different, there is no need for any books. We see what happens in all the religions.

The fulfilled actions are only inside a person and only according to the parameters that accumulate inside him, that connect and manage him. It’s foolish to think that I can change myself according to someone’s orders. If it were possible, it would mean that I am simply programmed and that I am a zombie, that I have read a certain instruction like a machine and changed it inside me. Then I am simply disconnected from my analytic instrument and am programmed.

I cease to be a human being and am just an animal in their hands, since a human being is someone who gradually clarifies everything that happens to him with the help of hisfreewill and his analytic instrument and comes to conclusions that are beyond the limits of his nature. He begins to realize that there is a narrow bridge to the other nature, to another creation to another world. This is where the wisdom of Kabbalah begins. This narrow bridge is bringing offerings, changing my desires from egoistic intentions to altruistic intentions.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 11/13/13

There Is No Creator Without Man, And There Is No Man Without The Creator

The Torah, “Leviticus,” 1:3-1:4: If his sacrifice is a burnt-offering from cattle, an unblemished male he shall bring it. He shall bring it willingly to the entrance of the Tent of Meeting before the Lord…and it will be accepted…

“Be accepted” refers to the decision a person comes to by examining which of his desires is perfectly ready to work with in order to bestow upon others without any self-benefit. A person has to examine all his desires, no matter what level they are on, rate them, and determine on what level he can bring an offering and on what level he cannot.

This is very precise work, during which we attain our inner nature with regard to theCreator and see that we can resemble Him to some extent but only on a certain level, and everything else in us is the animal that we have to sacrifice.

Thus, we determine our level, and by working with the anti-egoistic Masachim (screens), we build the spiritual ladder inside us. By that we learn the whole scheme and work actively on resembling and becoming like the Creator. To the extent that we can resemble the Creator, we can seemingly replace Him, so that man is left and there is no Creator

Question: I am always scared when you say “man is left and there is no Creator,” because we always mean that He exists and that the world is advancing towards Him.

Answer: No. We speak only about what we attain. If we don’t feel Him now, does He exist or not?

The main problem is that there are certain axioms, starting points, that have been inserted into us from birth, which we simply have to burn inside us. One of them is the existence of the Creator because this declaration implies that we already have some contact with Him and don’t need to build, to determine, and to sculpt this essence!

There is no Creator without man and there is no man without the Creator! This is why the Creator is called Bo-re (come and see). If we don’t come and don’t see, He doesn’t exist.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 11/13/13

The Effort Is The Reward

Question: Why is it that when we hear about the importance ofdissemination we are on fire and the burn with desire to go out to disseminate, but tomorrow all of our desire fades and disappears?

Answer: This is deliberately arranged so that we will overcome our desire. If it were pleasant for us to disseminate, we would get no benefit.

And so we have to make an effort against our desire because we think that this is important for spiritual development, even though on the physical level it does not seem important to us and is even repulsive. It follows that this is really work for us.

We must understand that where resistance from the body is not felt, there is no spiritual reward! It’s very simple. So if we don’t want to go out to disseminate and we find a thousand justifications for ourselves, if this is disgusting and repulsive to us, if we are ashamed and think that we are not suited for this work, all of this resistance is specifically given to us to overcome it and get a spiritual reward.

This is called an act of overcoming through effort. The effort is accumulated drop after drop, “joined into a great amount,” until our counter jumps to the next digit and we get spiritual elevation.

This means that we have no choice; it is impossible to advance otherwise. So I am happy to hear that you do not have the ability and desire and that you don’t know where to disseminate and how; these are all excuses, but this specifically gives you the opportunity to make an effort!

Understand that if you see an opportunity to take action without effort, it is preferable not to do it! If it is pleasant for you to go out to the community, and you want this very much, are excited and happy, then you will not receive a great reward for this activity, for you have not acted against your ego.
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From the 2^nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/3/14, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman

The Bottleneck

Question: How can we balance the study, the dissemination, and our ordinary life in the family and at work correctly?

Answer: We always feel pressure in every direction: The family demands that we spend all our time with it, at work, we have to make great efforts in what we do. But we always have to choose what is most important.

Everything depends on importance. There are people who can dedicate more time to the study and to dissemination, and others have less time. There are those who say that nothing depends on them, and others do everything possible for their spiritual development since otherwise their life will come to nothing. One thing depends on another, on the importance of the spiritual development that is established in the group.

We are living in a very special time, and we can see this in the way the world develops and the changes in it, and even by the changes in the climate. So, we have to consider how we make decisions and how much the world depends on us.

If we don’t convey the Light that Reforms to the world, it will be our fault. This is the mission of the Jews, of Israel. Israel means Yashar-El (straight to the Creator), and it is a conductor, an adapter. If we don’t convey the upper Light down to the entire world, we create a problem.

We must be the conductor and even the amplifier of the Light by our good work. Besides, we have to arrange the Light correctly by pouring it to the world through us like through a funnel so that it will be soft and smooth, and at the right angle. Our adaptor is rather complicated, and it has ten Sefirot.

However, if we don’t do all that and don’t adapt the Light correctly, we cannot connect and adapt the created beings, the entire world, to the Creator. First, we have to correct ourselves, and that is the reason that we feel pressure. The world is putting great negative pressure on us in the form of hatred and anti-Semitism.

There is also pressure from Above since we are like a bottleneck through which the Light and the abundance must pour unto those below. Therefore, we are in a special time and can advance seriously and powerfully. However, on the other hand, we also can lose everything.
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From the 2^nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/03/14, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman

Increasingly Clearer Lines Of Bestowal

Question: What does it mean to ask the friends for help?

Answer: Help can only come in the direction of connection, when everyone yearns to attain a connection in which there is maximal mutual bestowal upon one another for the sake of revealing of the Creator. We try to create more and more connections between us by trying this or that and the Egyptians help us by showing us which connection is right and which is not. They show us our mistakes, the places where we did not connect correctly and did not achieve mutual benefit.

Thus, they help us advance, and it is called that Pharaoh brought the children of Israel to the Creator. Thus we constantly search for what the true attribute of bestowal should be. We cannot discover it, but we appeal by requests, prayers, cries, by clarifying things between us and the Creator until we finally understand it.

But we have to find it by ourselves. There is help, an illumination from Above, according to our exertion. But we cannot receive this revelation for free, since we would not feel anything then. It has to be the result of our efforts, our searching, and our requests. Everything has to start from our inner impulse, from an awakening from below. If we connect with others in a way that matches the first revelation, then it happens and brings us to redemption.

We have to look for the next form of bestowal that is more and more advanced each time in order to find the Creator in a clear, illuminated, and more outstanding way. The Creator’s form is actually us. The form of bestowal that we discover among us is the Light. Now we don’t see or feel it but later the Light will sustain us.

In this Light we discover the thought of creation, the attributes of the upper. Thus we build the infrastructure for His revelation which is called Divinity. The form of bestowal with its mission is called Creator. The Creator is dressed in the created being. The created being is the spiritual Partzuf that is built as a result of the connection between us. Therefore it says that we make the Creator that is called Bo-re (come and see).

Question: So where is the request for help from the friends here?

Answer: The request should be mutual. This is called mutual guarantee. It has to be incorporated in mutual bestowal. Everything is aimed at one direction. Mutual guarantee is the common efforts to attain the Creator’s form and His attributes.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/16/14, Writings of Rabash

Pharaoh Turns The Animal Into A Human Being

Question: Who helps a person along the way, the Creator or Pharaoh?

Answer: It’s the same thing. I have to relate to these two forces in the same manner and not prefer one over the other but remain in the middle line.

Pharaoh helps me and the Creator helps me. I escape from Pharaoh to the Creator in order to get help, but, at the same time, I should appreciate Pharaoh and see him as the force without which I would have no connection with the Creator.

I have a small animal desire to enjoy. If the Pharaoh would not strike me, and he gives me spiritual blows, then I would not run to the Creator to ask Him for help, to look for protection. Then Pharaoh strikes me again and again, and I need the Creator again. If Pharaoh doesn’t do anything and doesn’t hit me, I fall into the animal, corporeal existence. It’s impossible without Pharaoh because without him I do not want advance anywhere.

It was the same with Mordecai. If Haman hadn’t been revealed, Mordecai would have sat quietly at the King’s gate. The Creator wanted to raise Mordecai, and therefore He raised Haman, as it says in the Megillah.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/16/14, Writings of Rabash

Humanity Is Leaving The Womb

In the News (from RH Reality Check): “Focusing on finding ways to save premature babies, Japanese professor Dr. Yoshinori Kuwabara of Juntendo University, has successfully gestated goat embryos in a machine that holds amniotic fluid in tanks.  On the other end of the process focusing on helping women unable to conceive and gestate babies, is Dr. Helen Hung-Ching Liu, Director of the Reproductive Endocrine Laboratory at the Center for Reproductive Medicine and Infertility at Cornell University. Quietly, in 2003, she and her team succeeded in growing a mouse embryo, almost to full term, by adding engineered endometrium tissue to a bio-engineered, extra-uterine ‘scaffold.’ More recently, she grew a human embryo, for ten days in an artificial womb. Her work is limited by legislation that imposes a 14-day limit on research project of this nature.  As complicated as it is, her goal is a functioning external womb.”

My Comment: As long as we have not reached the intention to do everything for the sake of the whole of humanity, above our egoism, all we do brings us to the deepening of the crisis and increased suffering.
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The Method Of Recovery

There are several types of depression. There is personal depression and there is general, collective depression.

Personal depression is passive. Collective depression is active and is characterized, for example, by people all climbing a barricade together. They don’t lie around quietly hoping for better times, rather they go out to demonstrate, destroying and shattering everything around them, just to be together.

Their power and support for each other is based upon this. This is a terrible phenomenon, for depression like this can cultivate fascism and nationalism.

So, it is very important to change their direction by using the method of the wisdom of connection.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 11/20/13

Turn On The Light In The Dark Room

We need to build a system that constantly reminds us that “there is none else besides Him.” This system must include at least ten people that have special relationship between them.

And so in this network of connection, in this mutual force field, theUpper Light begins to shine, and the upper power is found, which constantly reminds us that each and every moment comes from the foundation, from a higher power.

But if there is no network of connection like this between us, then we cannot remember. Situations will change, but we cannot connect them with the higher power, for this system isn’t working between us.

Only when a binding force field appears between us, like electricity or magnetism, then through our efforts to connect together, we feel that within it is a power that stabilizes this condition.

We go back to this work all the time. The system always reminds us that there is none else besides Him, stabilizing this condition for us, specifically when we are inconcealment so that we will demand His revelation, give Him contentment with this and equivalence of form, like the guest and the host.

Question: Is this talking about states in the spiritual world?

Answer: We are in the spiritual world, but in concealment! We need to dispel this concealment from our state, to turn on the Light as if we were found together in a dark room without our knowing it. I enter the room, but I don’t see or feel that there is anyone there because of the darkness. I need to turn on the Light, and then I will see and understand that I am found together with everyone. We don’t fly to the spiritual world. We are already found within it, but it is concealed.

Question: But a person forgets that he is in concealment!

Answer: He doesn’t forget, but it is the Creator who intentionally obliges him to forget, and makes him confused! He not only forgets, but doesn’t want to be involved with spirituality at all because he is completely involved in other business. All this is arranged for him intentionally so precisely in spite of all this, he will come back to awareness.

Question: But if a friend does not remind me, I will never remember this!

Answer: Right, so we need Arvut (mutual guarantee). Without Arvut there is no need to give us the Torah, the method. Only if we are ready to create a system of Arvut in which a sufficient number of friends participate, a complete number of 600,000 souls, who can be mutually connected with each other and understand that the goal is to become like one man with one heart, and if they agree to go towards this, then it is worthwhile to give us the method of connection.

Essentially this is not a method of connection, but a method of discovery. It is a method through which we turn on the Light and dispel the concealment.
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From the preparation for the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/20/14

An Ideal Family In An Ideal Society

I only want to add something important to what I said about building successful family relationships. It won’t work if you try to implement these methods in certain individual cases.

We may work with many couples, and it will seem to us that we managed to teach them the integral method. But they won’t achieve anything with its help. They won’t have enough patience for it, and the society doesn’t support this. We are not built in the way that helps us implement it. For this, one has to become a true expert on building such system of relationships and devote himself exclusively to this.

We will be able to teach people to create such inner family relationship only in the framework of correction of the entire society where we will build similar relationships as well. That is, this is inseparably linked with integral education.

In an ideal family relationship a couple is connected in such a way that we complete each other, giving to each other pleasure which one cannot achieve alone. And I can’t receive it from anybody else because I feel that it has to do with the inner world of a person next to or in front of me.

We are in union (Zivug) both in the heart and soul, which refers to the innermost mutual penetration, thanks to which we get incorporated into each other.

And this is taking place because inside our connection we feel general influence of the environment that is connected with the same ties as well. Two of us become one whole, and we feel that namely through the connection between us we will be able to connect with a greater society, reaching adhesion (Zivug) with them, and to receive from them a great addition: a feeling of harmony with society.

In this way, we receive a big addition, even if compared with a romantic idyll in the family. But by acting as a couple, as a single family unit in relation to society, we receive billion times more sensations.

Love between us grows many times if it corresponds to the general love that dwells in the society in which we live. Today, we can create a right family only for this purpose, otherwise not. And thus, I repeat: It’s impossible to receive this without integral education.

And this will benefit society at large, which will start feeling love within itself as well, love that raises us to a completely different level. Inside a small family one can attribute it to psychological effect, physical sensation. But if we receive such love in the entire society, we ascend to a completely new level of life.

Question: Can love between us two kindle love in the entire society?

Answer: No, we have to simultaneously develop both. One love supports the other, and they can’t exist without one another. Thus, if we try to implement this method only within the family, we won’t succeed.

Love demands mutual support between family and society. And apparently, this is so on purpose—an great lack of good family relationships that we feel today will force us to establish good relations in society.
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From a TV Program “A New Life” No. 196, 06/09/2013

Sacrificing The Ego For The Sake Of Bestowal

Question: Offering a sacrifice was discovered after the consecutive entrances of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob into Egypt.

Answer: Offering sacrifices was also common in Egypt to some extent, but in a totally different way; Abraham, for example was told: “Offer Isaac as sacrifice.”

After the exodus from Egypt, there were direct instructions to come to the Creator, to build the Tabernacle, to post the priests, etc. This became a movement of a nation that did not exist in Egypt.

Therefore, we can understand how the Hebrew custom of offering sacrifices of animals that they slaughtered was hated to the Egyptians. It is because the ego sees how it is being destroyed and sacrificed in order to acquire the opposite, most hated attribute, the property of love and bestowal.

The ego cannot bear any form of sacrifice, and is against it, but cannot do anything about it.

Question: Certain counties have banned the kosher slaughtering of animals.

Answer: We often encounter this phenomenon since the normal ordinary ego doesn’t understand that offering a kosher sacrifice, even on the corporeal level, is the most humane and merciful way, because in that case, the animal doesn’t feel that it is dead. In fact, it symbolizes correction.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 11/20/13