Losing Your Own Alien Gainer

Question: Does the disappearance of the fulfillment of desires leave us doubly devastated?

Answer: Of course. After all, the desire and fulfillment, which you wanted to achieve, should have felt pleasure, but instead, leave bitterness. Therefore, we experience double devastation from both desire and from fulfillment.

Question: There is a story about a boy who lost a coin, stands, and cries. A passerby asks him: “Why are you crying?” Hearing the answer of the boy, he gives him a coin, and he cries even more. The passerby says: “I gave you a coin. Why are you crying again?” The boy replies: ” I would have two if I had mine.”

Does it turn out that the gain is felt in our desires much less than the loss?

Answer: Yes. This is called Ibud mi keren (loss from the capital sum). If I had a dollar and I lost it, it is not the same as if I earned this dollar or won two dollars. The loss of one’s own is felt more acutely than the acquisition of another’s.
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From KabTV’s “The Age of Post-Coronavirus” 4/23/20