Family And Marriage, Part 8

Feel Everyone Close to Yourself

Question: Can we say that the family is needed only so that we learn to give correctly? This is selfish giving, but at least I get some models of correct behavior.

Answer: Yes, there is something like that. At least, the family demonstrates the condition that if a person feels them as close, then I am ready to treat him as myself.

So, the whole problem is to feel everyone close. This is the method of Kabbalah. The upper light creates such an ability in us.

Remark: You said that there are five kinds of desires in us. So it turns out that I see part of my desires outside myself and feel them as strangers, and I see part of my desires as mine and so I naturally care about their fulfillment.

My Comment: The whole world—all I can see are my desires. I see myself inside myself.

Question: But I see part outside myself and part inside?

Answer: Yes. Only those desires that are outside of me are like strangers, but they are the most important for me.

Question: Where is the family in this?

Answer: The family is in the middle, on the border between the “I” and the outside world. It is a transitional link from the awareness of the external world as yourself.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19