Not Emptiness But Fulfillment

Question: Suppose I am bestowing for the sake of the Creator, but later I feel exhausted. Since the stage of bestowal is called the phase of Bina, does it mean that I am now in this phase?

Answer: No! If you were really bestowing, you would not feel emptiness, but rather fulfillment.

To the extent that you open your valve and begin to vent egoism from yourself, which means bestowing, you leave an empty space within you that is immediately filled with the upper light.

You are like a balloon filled with egoism. When the valve opens, egoism begins to come out slowly and the upper light comes to take its place: Nefesh, Ruach, and Neshamadepending on the level of intensity. But you cannot feel exhausted. On the contrary, you feel how much you acquired, received, and were filled with.
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From the Daily Kabbalah lesson in Russian, 11/25/18

Useful Suffering

Question: How can I make sure that suffering  is pushing me toward spiritual work and not toward escaping them?

Answer: The fact of the matter is that there is useful suffering that directs us toward the goal of creation and there is suffering that we just experience, which brings no benefit.

Useful suffering forces us to be immersed in the group more, to be united with it, to help build ourselves. Just like when we drive somewhere and get lost, that we went the wrong way, the suffering from this helps us find the right way. Without such jolts, we cannot move correctly. We always move according to the two lines: right and left, pleasure and suffering.

Therefore, the suffering that pushes us forward and always indicates how to move correctly is the right suffering.

For example, in a tracking system, a moving rocket constantly adjusts itself. We too must always monitor our path and adjust ourselves according to the negative feedback that constantly corrects and keeps us on course. Such connection is necessary and should not be perceived as suffering but as a necessary correction. Thank the Creator for giving us this education.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/18/18

The Structure Of Spiritual Desire

Question: What is the structure of spiritual desire? How does it differ from the structure of my current desire?

Answer: Spiritual desire is the ten Sefirot: nine Sefirot ending with Malchut.

The upper light, which spreads through the four phases of direct light, forms nine Sefirot: Keter, Hochma, Bina, and Zeir Anpin, which in turn consists of six Sefirot. Passing through them, the light builds the fifth stage—Malchut.

The first nine properties are the properties of bestowal, and Malchut is the property of reception.

When Malchut becomes like the nine Sefirot, a conjugation occurs with it and the properties of bestowal. Therefore, it can receive the upper light, but only if it has a screen (reduction) to receive the upper light.

Thus, their connection arises on the conjugation of Malchut with the nine Sefirot.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/25/18

New Life #192 – The Foundation Of Education In Jewish Culture, Part 2

New Life #192 – The Foundation of Education in Jewish Culture, Part 2
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary:

Building an environment that will support the values toward which we want our children to be drawn is of primary importance. When a person learns alone, his ego educates him. When we learn in a small group, we become like one, strong, intelligent, sensitive, inclusive network of consideration and love. Integral education in a group imparts global wisdom, the wisdom of connection. The goal of this type of education is to bring each person to feel that the whole world belongs to him so that he will relate to the world as he does to himself. All children will be as one but the uniqueness of each child will be maintained. This produces tremendous wealth. The child will always succeed, knowing who he is, what he is about, and why he is alive. The map of life will be opened before him.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #192 – The Foundation of Education in Jewish Culture, Part 2,” 6/2/13

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Absolute Love Or How To Find A Soulmate

Question: From the point of view of science, isn’t the love a person feels for another simply a chemical process occurring in his body?

Answer: Of course, these are all chemical processes.

Question: What is love in terms of Kabbalah?

Answer: It is love at another level. But ultimately it is realized in us in the same physical and chemical processes. Only in Kabbalah it is studied from its upper source, from where it appears in us.

In fact, everything is determined by what is called “soul affinity,” that is, how much our souls, our spiritual components, are in a close state to each other in the common system of all souls in the world. Accordingly, we become attracted to and find each other.

It seems like it is a coincidence, that there are some circumstances. It is nothing of the kind. There are no coincidences in the world. Only the upper root brings us into some kind of movement toward each other. It obliges us to pay attention to each other and get close. At what level and in what sense to get close depends on the quality of our spiritual roots.

Question: How does this spiritual convergence occur?

Answer: A person in our world does not know this. We, as they say, “sniff” each other, study each other. It seems to us that we are suitable or not. It seems to us that circumstances lead to this, and everyone says: “You are so alike, similar,” and so on. This is all the world of dolls, the world of a game. But in fact, spiritual forces, spiritual roots, determine everything.

Question: How does one search for a spiritual partner?

Answer: People will not be able to. People do not understand. We study this in the science of Kabbalah and understand how it works. But in our world, we still cannot realize it.

Question: Is love a relationship of souls?

Answer: Love is the attraction of kindred souls. But this is spiritual, ideal love.

Question: What is a soulmate?

Answer: Soulmates are those who are in very close combination in the spiritual world.

There is a common soul. In it, there are many, billions of private souls that coexist with each other in all sorts of combinations. Their combinations determine the convergence, separation, and movement, including physical, in general, all this Brownian movement between us in our world.

Question: Does the name “my other half” imply a soulmate?

Answer: This is the perfect case.

Question: What is lovesickness?

Answer: Lovesickness in our world is purely egoistic suffering because I need fulfillment and I cannot find it. “Where is my second half that will fill me?” It’s just like: “Where is my dinner that I want to eat that I’m supposed to have?” It is absolutely the same. It is also the same with sex and with all the other fillings.

Question: What should be the principle of relationships of love in terms of Kabbalah?

Answer: This is a mutual understanding, the pursuit of a common goal, in which we unite together as one. But only in a common goal.

Question: Can this goal be anything?

Answer: No, only the spiritual goal! A spiritual goal is the union of our souls. As the great English poet Chaucer wrote: “Reach the merging of our souls in the tangle of our bodies.” He laughed at this—what we want.

Question: What is the lovesickness (“suffering out of love”) in Kabbalistic terms?

Answer: It is when I want to find my soulmate, including all the other souls in the world, in order to reach a state of spiritual connection between us, when I give everything, and through them I give it to the Creator. This is called true love. Eternal.

Question: Can there be a separation between soulmates, a break in communication? Why does it occur?

Answer: I did not observe such effects in our world. We are still in a state where our world is broken, and it only just begins its approach to the spiritual, corrected world.

We will definitely enter it. The question is when? We will reach a state where we will simultaneously perform actions in our world on the basis of spiritual actions. Then, we will fall in love with the soul and unite “soul to soul” as they say. Then everything will coexist in this way. I cannot imagine that separation is possible at this state.

Question: Then separation will not exist?

Answer: No. This is eternal love!
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From the TV program “News with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman”, 2/28/18

What Should A Student Give The Teacher?

Question: What should a student give to the teacher?

Answer: A student should give the teacher his aspirations, which he will be able to raise upward and bring the student the strength to realize them.

Question: Does the teacher need this?

Answer: Why does he exist? It is only in order to help students. This is his purpose.

Question: Should the teacher evoke these aspirations in the students?

Answer: The teacher can only offer, but he cannot coerce or force. This is the work of the student himself. But the teacher is ready for it.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/2/18

Why Do People Start Studying Kabbalah?

Question: When people come to the science of Kabbalah, they are afraid that the process of mastering it takes a very long time, many years. Will it ever take less time? Perhaps after some time, people will pass through all those states that we go through more quickly?

Answer: Suppose you get a diploma, hang it on the wall. And what will you do next?

Remark: Probably live infinitely.

My Comment: So you want to quickly enter eternal life? But eternal life means that you aspire to the quality of bestowal and love, think only about others.

A person who comes to study Kabbalah understands that a new state, a new outlook on life, a new humanity, a new system of interaction between people is now being opened to him. After all, it was not that he just came, studied a little, was noted in the journal, given a piece of paper, and he can hang it on the wall.

He comes to change himself, to enter the upper world, to exist in it. This is much more than your temporary relationship with Kabbalah.

The science of Kabbalah deals with raising a person to the next level of the universe, and he begins to see from where all the governing forces descend and what he is dealing with.
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From the Daily Kabbalah lesson in Russian, 12/9/18

New Life #191 – The Foundation Of Education In Jewish Culture, Part 1

New Life #191 – The Foundation of Education in Jewish Culture, Part 1
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

Education is the only means for transforming us into complete people. The entire Torah is education: It is about how a person must relate to himself, to the still, the vegetative, the animate and to the human. The image of a perfected person toward which education aims precedes the religious or secular form. This is the source. The Torah requires of us to love everything outside of us. It is impossible to achieve such love without education because our nature is its opposite. Education is only by example, not by suppression. Teach and be an example, because words in and of themselves do not help.
From KabTV’s “New Life #191 – The Foundation of Education in Jewish Culture, Part 1,” 6/2/13

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